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things that occur to me in the shower: part II

i analyze things all the time. i try to understand people and their relationships or situations. i want a better understanding of what makes the world tick, on a person by person basis. i love thinking about all of these people. sometimes its where these blog posts come from, sometimes i write it down somewhere else, sometimes i talk to who ever will listen, but rarely do i get the chance to actually tell the person.

im not sure about this.

on the one hand, i know how much an outside point of view can just be a punch to stomach, rip your guts out, total blindside that leaves you curled up in a weak and pathetic ball of complete denial. and then on the other hand, i know enlightening it can be once you get over the immediate knee jerk reaction to tell that person to shove it. rarely do we jump at the chance to see what our lives look like from outside the box that we live in. we ask our friends/families opinions but not usually when we most need to hear them.

if i respect you, i want to know what you think. we all have the right not to listen, but i least want to have the opportunity to listen.

in my own experience, i have learned that there is a fine art to sharing your opinion (the one that doesn’t match up with theirs) in such a way that the other person doesn’t immediately discount the controversial insight that i am bringing to the table. im not interested in the evil business of persuading people, i am interested in giving people the opportunity to see outside of themselves, to think about their circumstance in a new light, to ask the “what else could this mean?” question. it isn’t about an egotistical need to tell everyone what i think, its really a frustration with their inability to see the possibility for change. i want to help.

my ammendmant after this mornings shower: it all depends on whether or not the other party is ready to hear. and they dont have to be necessarily aware that they are ready to hear it, but on some subconcious level they have to at least have an inkling of being ready for change. without that, there is no chance.

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About mudly

Mud is main blog writer extraordinaire, picture guru, and the garden and adventure instigator. She loves to cook, but doesn’t much like following a recipe. She also loves typewriters, the color turquoise, and wearing tie dye with stripes. And she dorks out on permies.com while dreaming up and planning her next garden.

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This entry was posted on February 23, 2009 by in Everything All in One Place and tagged , , , , , , , , .

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