Micro Entrepreneurism, Simple Living & Art
Our futures are filled with things we’d like to happen. Be it as insignificant as getting a nice hot cup of coffee on a cold day, to as huge as falling in love. Maybe its eating healthier, or making an effort to meet new people, or writing that email to your best friend. The variety of things spans far and wide. My question is, how many of these desires (things you’d like to happen) would you let yourself get really upset about if they didn’t happen? Is your day gonna be ruined if you don’t get the coffee? I’m guessing probably not. What if you sneak in some ice cream in the middle of your healthy eating? Do you call yourself a lousy, no good fat person with no restraint and resolve to be unhealthy forever? Seems a little extreme. But these are the simple examples, where its easy to see the ridiculousness of being attached to the outcome. Being attached to the outcome is when you let those things that don’t happen change you. When they throw you off your path instead of just being able to shrug your shoulders and say, “Oh well,” and move on. I’ve been thinking about this as it applies to love, and romantic relationships. I have often thought that these would last longer, and be healthier if they existed more like good friendships. And I say that in this very context. In good friendships, we don’t take offense so easily, we aren’t so quick to question or pass judgment. We can not talk for days, weeks, and months, and I don’t think the other person is avoiding me. I’m not really mad if they bail on going to do something with me because they’re too busy or something came up- I’m just bummed I don’t get to hang in good company.
So I repeat, “Stay unattached to the outcome,” and see how you feel.